Don't be a victim of the egoic mind

Do you spend most of your time feeling unhappy, stressed, anxious, angry, dissatisfied, frustrated? Do you constantly feel as though your inner peace and happiness are being clouded?

Understanding the mind should be the start of any self-development journey – the practice of being aware in feeling which thoughts you allow your Egoic Mind to entertain.

Take control of your mind through the process of awareness.


The Egoic mind is commonly known as the mental voice in our mind, and it is driven by the ego. The ego controls our thoughts and feelings leading to negative self-talk. The function of the Egoic Mind is to distort your, so-called “reality” or “outside world”. As a result, you end up believing ideas, images and stories about yourself and the world that are simply not real or true.

Choosing to listen to the mind is the only true choice that you have in life, as everything that you experience begins from this place – from a thought. Your thoughts are a mental projection and no matter how real they may seem and feel to you – they are simply not true.

"Ninety-nine percent of your thoughts are a complete waste of time. They do nothing but freak you out". Michael A. Singer


Since it comes from our own mind, we don’t tend to question our thoughts. We simply accept them as they arise. Why? Our mind seems to be wired and programmed in this way. We believe and trust our own thoughts, regardless of what the effects of this may be. In fact, we take it one step further and claim them as our own; we feel as though it must be a reflection of who we truly are.

Not enough people pay attention to what their thoughts are saying. If they did, they would soon recognise how negative, untrue and troubling they are to them. Often critical, twisted, mean, vain, arrogant, egotistical, judgmental, opinionated and belittling – believe me when I say that these thoughts do not benefit inner peace, happiness and emotional freedom.


It is so important to understand that most negative feelings we experience arise from random, unreasonable thoughts that cross our mind. I am referring to feelings like:

  • Shame

  • Jealousy (a devastating one for relationships!)

  • Envy

  • Guilt

  • Want

  • Need

  • Lack

  • Resentment

  • Depression

  • Anger

  • Stress

  • Scarcity

  • Hopelessness

  • Sadness

  • Rage

  • Criticism

And I could go on and on and on…

Do you realise the emotional freedom that you could achieve if you were to have control of your thoughts?


Sadly, from a logic perspective, we can see the mental voice as a damaging guide to life; yet, we still listen, believe and follow what it says like it is the voice of reason.

Becoming aware of your thoughts is fundamental if you want to improve your life – it is the only way to stop your undesirable, unwanted behaviours towards well… everything. It is the only way to stop the untrue stories that you grow into believing emotionally.


I believe that much human suffering in the world is caused by the mental voice because it battles and fights against life and leads people off the right path. In truth, the voice represents a false-self or the Ego. All humans have one and when entertaining it, it creates an overall feeling of not being enough.

Be present and attentive - always! And learn to not engage with thoughts that you know are not true, or that appear from a fearful place – it only makes them stronger, believable.

The ego loves you and would do anything to keep you safe…To me, it is where fear stems from. Using fear as a way to control you, the ego keeps you trapped, stuck. The ego wants you to be involved fully in its own creations. It needs you – as it cannot be maintained without your participation. Unfortunately, as soon as you let your mind take control of the projection, it will abuse your lack of consciousness, and you will find yourself living a life of unnecessary suffering.


Don’t be a victim of the Egoic mind anymore. Learn to become conscious – living in the present moment of the HERE and NOW. The ego lives in the past and the future – the past is gone and who knows about the future… it hasn’t happened yet. But remember that the NOW determines your future.

Do not live your life from your mind – thoughts are just an annoying illusion of the Egoic Mind. Instead take control over any thoughts, images and stories that randomly appear in your mind – you will be able to experience life’s real moments rather than overlooking your so-called “reality” with an obstructed view.

Life is to be experienced not analysed or instructed. Without embracing every moment, life passes us by, and we can’t take advantage of the mystical experiences that come our way. By living in the NOW – the right NOW – we allow ourselves into a world of joy, love, wisdom, kindness, and even strength.

"We suffer more often in imagination than in reality". Seneca


Thought awareness:

Notice how stubborn your mind is. How it quickly teases you with thoughts that distract you from staying in the present moment. Your mind does not want to be part of the HERE and NOW. Instead, it gets busy with many temptations from the past and the future. These temptations are simply tactics. Pay attention to all the temptations. What are the most powerful ones? Do you get tempted with thoughts like food, shopping, money, work, memory, fantasy, sex, old memories, a new story, the way that you look maybe?

Can you tell how long you stay in the NOW before you get involved with the Egoic Mind again?

Hand awareness:

Intertwine your hands really tightly and hold them for at least 10 seconds. As you release them, focus on the feelings. Do you notice the tingling sensation?


Just breathe as normal. Feel the natural flow of breath as you breathe in and out slowly. Focus on the sensation of your breathing. Where is your breath in your body? In your nose, mouth, throat, chest, abdomen? Follow each breath. One breath at a time. If you get distracted, gently push the thought away and return your focus to your breathing.

The “I” rule:

Notice how many times you use “I” during a conversation with somebody. Not only it is a great exercise for quickly coming back to consciousness during a conversation, but you will also realise how self-centred you may come across.

Right now, the world is in turmoil, and I feel that we have lost the concept of what life is all about – just be; feel; experience and love.

With love,

Melanie xx

Melanie is an Image Therapist, Facialist and Feminine Empowerment Coach based in central London. She offers Authentic Image Transformation from the inside out for women ready to elevate their personal and professional life.

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